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[verbminx]

You know, if you're ditching someone to "make a point", especially someone who considers you a friend, you should probably call it to their attention, because given your erratic appearances and disappearances, and the fact that they haven't really been keeping up with noticing people who drop them (it's usually people they don't mesh with), it might be a while before they notice.

I never do these snide little posts when people drop me as an "lj friend"... I don't too much care who reads this... but it'd be nice to know if someone I care about has a problem. Esp if it's over (as I think) an ideological disagreement that they haven't even really *discussed* with me... especially when I keep nonessential-to-the-friendship policy disagreements I have with them to myself.
Big fucking deal if I disagree with someone about sex/drugs/rock-n-roll.

In other news, I just threw out a giant box of magazines and sort-of-but-not-really watched Ocean's Eleven... which reminds me of the Miss Vicky Ocean comics I used to read. :)






"Now and then we wonder who the real men are..."

Which Strange Little Girl would you be?

This quiz made while Angel was procrastinating her ass off.

You are the type of person who appreciates the balance of yin and yang, anima and animus. You embrace these elements of yourself freely and equally. Your life is about balance, about finding the perfect middle ground and harmonious state. You are also a very outspoken person, and you use your knowledge to educate others and try and make a difference in the world. You particularly dislike labels and stereotypes, preferring to think of people as fluid on all levels, personality and sexuality included. You're a strong, passionate person.

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I also took that sex horoscope test, and it listed me as a Taurus! But, I disagreed with what it said I ought to be as one, on certain levels... (golden showers? ewwwwww.....)

Comments

[amatrixangel.livejournal.com]

I can relate to the first part of your post. I came to LJ via kyotopia and was and still am grateful to kyotopia for introducing me to livejournal. We were both on each other's friends' list and then, for reason(s) still unkown, some months later dropped. I thought this was strange at first because we seemed to get along fine with comments etc. and seemed to be on the same wavelength, both come from creative backgrounds etc. I asked in kyotopia's journal was there a 'problem' but received no reply. I waited for a bit and emailed the same question but zero response.

I mean, I wasn't overly worried or concerned or anything, I just thought if I had said something to which they found upsetting then they should have said. Or even if they thought that they didn't particularly like reading or being bothered to read my own posts then, that's fair enough too of course. I don't have a problem with any of that. It just would have been nice to know the reason, whatever it was. Even if it was something really negative I would never take anything personally.

I feel it comes down to common decency (perhaps not so common) and courtesy to say, "thanks, but no thanks". It doesn't take much to just drop a email note off if they didn't want any other lj-ers to 'see'. Even with that, no 'reason' is needed if they don't feel like giving one ...it's just a matter of politeness in the human scheme of things. I know there are real people there sitting behind the screens reading with feelings, emotions and the rest of things. I for one would like to know if I've pissed anyone off that I considered an online friend.

I do have some inkling, however. Kyotopia and another lj-er on my friends list had a pretty big fallout and kyotopia knew that I was speaking with the other person via ICQ all the time. The 'other' person became a really good online friend and still is. Neither of us spoke of kyotopia in any negative sense and it was all positive and good. Kyotopia wouldn't know that but then, I think they were thinking negative things which was only in their head and not ours and took umbridge that her friend (a guy) and I had become such good friends (we have spoken with each other on the phone too but he is in Canada and I'm here in Australia). It was about that time of the fallout that I was dropped. If it was about this biz. then I think that's silly of course because they are two totally different people. I thought it was a bit sad to lose kyotopia because they were my first LJ friend. Oh well.

Anwyay, goodnight, godbless and may your goddess go with you :)

oh yeah, I did the test too...

Wise, loving and protective... If you were a StrangeLittleGirl, you would be....


Enjoy the Silence.

You tend to be the mother hen in your circle of friends. You're there with advice learned over the years to help those unsure of where to go, and you often try to keep those around you safe. You have a lot of insight, and seem rather old because of it. You tend to be very expressive of your emotion, usually through action as opposed to words. You are usually rather calm, but grow fierce when someone tries to harm a loved one. Sometimes, friends find you a bit smothering because you tend to not let them make their own mistakes. You have learned well from your mistakes, haven't you? Sometimes, we need to learn things by trial and error. Your friends have nothing to fear though; even when they fail, you'll be there to keep them safe in your arms.

[verbminx.livejournal.com]

One of my then-friends came to LJ at my urging (I think?) in the first few months I was here, and then pretty much proceeded to use it to destroy our friendship. Blah, there is more to it than that (lies! betrayal! haha...), but I don't get into it, really. It's a long story not worth discussing. Sometimes people who are friends with her add me, and I'll add them back if they seem cool, but it's really hard for me to be warm to them because I don't want to deal with her in their comments areas or because I know they talk to her on AIM and I fundamentally can't trust them if they were friends with her first.

this instance (unrelated)... this friend, who i met via lj about 15 months or so ago and have been chummy with here and on AIM, and who I trust(ed?) disagreed with a comment i made to a feministas post by an unrelated party, and apparently sometime after dropped me from her friends list. I assume she blocked me on AIM as well, because I haven't seen her online since then. She hasn't even discussed it with me. That's why I'm irritated. I don't end relationships over relatively minor ideological differences. I don't know whether my disagreement hit a sore spot for her or what. She has certain lifestyle choices that I disagree with (drugs), but I've never given her a hard time about them. So I'm hurt, and I'll miss her. *sigh*

[amatrixangel.livejournal.com]

Yes, I know what you're saying and agree. Jeeshh, some of my RL and online friends have ideological diff's but that doesn't spoil a real 'friendship' - online or off.

Sad to hear about what happened with you but then, well, they weren't really a 'friend' at all if they do that.