I can relate to the first part of your post. I came to LJ via kyotopia and was and still am grateful to kyotopia for introducing me to livejournal. We were both on each other's friends' list and then, for reason(s) still unkown, some months later dropped. I thought this was strange at first because we seemed to get along fine with comments etc. and seemed to be on the same wavelength, both come from creative backgrounds etc. I asked in kyotopia's journal was there a 'problem' but received no reply. I waited for a bit and emailed the same question but zero response.
I mean, I wasn't overly worried or concerned or anything, I just thought if I had said something to which they found upsetting then they should have said. Or even if they thought that they didn't particularly like reading or being bothered to read my own posts then, that's fair enough too of course. I don't have a problem with any of that. It just would have been nice to know the reason, whatever it was. Even if it was something really negative I would never take anything personally.
I feel it comes down to common decency (perhaps not so common) and courtesy to say, "thanks, but no thanks". It doesn't take much to just drop a email note off if they didn't want any other lj-ers to 'see'. Even with that, no 'reason' is needed if they don't feel like giving one ...it's just a matter of politeness in the human scheme of things. I know there are real people there sitting behind the screens reading with feelings, emotions and the rest of things. I for one would like to know if I've pissed anyone off that I considered an online friend.
I do have some inkling, however. Kyotopia and another lj-er on my friends list had a pretty big fallout and kyotopia knew that I was speaking with the other person via ICQ all the time. The 'other' person became a really good online friend and still is. Neither of us spoke of kyotopia in any negative sense and it was all positive and good. Kyotopia wouldn't know that but then, I think they were thinking negative things which was only in their head and not ours and took umbridge that her friend (a guy) and I had become such good friends (we have spoken with each other on the phone too but he is in Canada and I'm here in Australia). It was about that time of the fallout that I was dropped. If it was about this biz. then I think that's silly of course because they are two totally different people. I thought it was a bit sad to lose kyotopia because they were my first LJ friend. Oh well.
Anwyay, goodnight, godbless and may your goddess go with you :)
oh yeah, I did the test too...
Wise, loving and protective... If you were a StrangeLittleGirl, you would be....
Enjoy the Silence.
You tend to be the mother hen in your circle of friends. You're there with advice learned over the years to help those unsure of where to go, and you often try to keep those around you safe. You have a lot of insight, and seem rather old because of it. You tend to be very expressive of your emotion, usually through action as opposed to words. You are usually rather calm, but grow fierce when someone tries to harm a loved one. Sometimes, friends find you a bit smothering because you tend to not let them make their own mistakes. You have learned well from your mistakes, haven't you? Sometimes, we need to learn things by trial and error. Your friends have nothing to fear though; even when they fail, you'll be there to keep them safe in your arms.
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Date: 2002-07-26 03:21 am (UTC)I mean, I wasn't overly worried or concerned or anything, I just thought if I had said something to which they found upsetting then they should have said. Or even if they thought that they didn't particularly like reading or being bothered to read my own posts then, that's fair enough too of course. I don't have a problem with any of that. It just would have been nice to know the reason, whatever it was. Even if it was something really negative I would never take anything personally.
I feel it comes down to common decency (perhaps not so common) and courtesy to say, "thanks, but no thanks". It doesn't take much to just drop a email note off if they didn't want any other lj-ers to 'see'. Even with that, no 'reason' is needed if they don't feel like giving one ...it's just a matter of politeness in the human scheme of things. I know there are real people there sitting behind the screens reading with feelings, emotions and the rest of things. I for one would like to know if I've pissed anyone off that I considered an online friend.
I do have some inkling, however. Kyotopia and another lj-er on my friends list had a pretty big fallout and kyotopia knew that I was speaking with the other person via ICQ all the time. The 'other' person became a really good online friend and still is. Neither of us spoke of kyotopia in any negative sense and it was all positive and good. Kyotopia wouldn't know that but then, I think they were thinking negative things which was only in their head and not ours and took umbridge that her friend (a guy) and I had become such good friends (we have spoken with each other on the phone too but he is in Canada and I'm here in Australia). It was about that time of the fallout that I was dropped. If it was about this biz. then I think that's silly of course because they are two totally different people. I thought it was a bit sad to lose kyotopia because they were my first LJ friend. Oh well.
Anwyay, goodnight, godbless and may your goddess go with you :)
oh yeah, I did the test too...
Wise, loving and protective... If you were a StrangeLittleGirl, you would be....
Enjoy the Silence.
You tend to be the mother hen in your circle of friends. You're there with advice learned over the years to help those unsure of where to go, and you often try to keep those around you safe. You have a lot of insight, and seem rather old because of it. You tend to be very expressive of your emotion, usually through action as opposed to words. You are usually rather calm, but grow fierce when someone tries to harm a loved one. Sometimes, friends find you a bit smothering because you tend to not let them make their own mistakes. You have learned well from your mistakes, haven't you? Sometimes, we need to learn things by trial and error. Your friends have nothing to fear though; even when they fail, you'll be there to keep them safe in your arms.