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verbminxoof! slept a long time and woke up with killer cramps.
bad dreams last night that i don't feel like detailing. recurrent situations. basically anxiety dreams. at one point half my mother's family descended on us with no warning.
To keep this from being an entirely pointless entry... weirdness is going on with my grandmother. it looks like she's dumping my grandfather... finally. they've been married for 55 years. he has a choice now to do what she wants or to deal with being dumped. it's VERY interesting.
See, my grandparents got married in the 1940s, obviously. My grandmother was an art student in Boston and my grandfather was a guy from Ohio who had been in the Merchant Marine. I have no idea how they met; I don't think it was a particularly fond memory for my grandmother. There is a lot of suspicion in the family that they "had" to get married and that the "anniversary" date is not the actual anniversary, blah blah blah. Whatever the reason, my prim grandmother ended up living in a shack in Ohio. That gradually improved, but the relationship was never good; there were seven kids and my grandfather was constantly out with other women. Apparently, whenever she wanted to leave him, he would threaten her with never seeing her children again.
So since she's been in the hospital (since Mother's Day), with this hip that she broke last fall, she's been on antidepressants, and on a nicotine patch, and she's starting to assert herself. She's changing the power of attorney, taking it away from my grandfather. Now, not only is she willing to look for an apartment in some sort of assisted-care facility, she's eager to do so... and she doesn't care whether or not my grandfather comes with her. She refuses to go back and live in their house: she only has a tiny room off the livingroom, and she hates it. She calls it "the CAVE he's pushed me into." She can't even make it upstairs anymore, so he has the whole upstairs to himself.
My grandfather is very pissed-off. Not only the usual things that someone would feel upon being declared incompetent (his Parkinson's is one reason why the POA is being taken away from him, because it makes his speech virtually unintelligible), but also being dumped by a woman he's been threatening to dump for years, and generally losing control over her.
It's awfully interesting. I hope she keeps her newly-developed backbone.
bad dreams last night that i don't feel like detailing. recurrent situations. basically anxiety dreams. at one point half my mother's family descended on us with no warning.
To keep this from being an entirely pointless entry... weirdness is going on with my grandmother. it looks like she's dumping my grandfather... finally. they've been married for 55 years. he has a choice now to do what she wants or to deal with being dumped. it's VERY interesting.
See, my grandparents got married in the 1940s, obviously. My grandmother was an art student in Boston and my grandfather was a guy from Ohio who had been in the Merchant Marine. I have no idea how they met; I don't think it was a particularly fond memory for my grandmother. There is a lot of suspicion in the family that they "had" to get married and that the "anniversary" date is not the actual anniversary, blah blah blah. Whatever the reason, my prim grandmother ended up living in a shack in Ohio. That gradually improved, but the relationship was never good; there were seven kids and my grandfather was constantly out with other women. Apparently, whenever she wanted to leave him, he would threaten her with never seeing her children again.
So since she's been in the hospital (since Mother's Day), with this hip that she broke last fall, she's been on antidepressants, and on a nicotine patch, and she's starting to assert herself. She's changing the power of attorney, taking it away from my grandfather. Now, not only is she willing to look for an apartment in some sort of assisted-care facility, she's eager to do so... and she doesn't care whether or not my grandfather comes with her. She refuses to go back and live in their house: she only has a tiny room off the livingroom, and she hates it. She calls it "the CAVE he's pushed me into." She can't even make it upstairs anymore, so he has the whole upstairs to himself.
My grandfather is very pissed-off. Not only the usual things that someone would feel upon being declared incompetent (his Parkinson's is one reason why the POA is being taken away from him, because it makes his speech virtually unintelligible), but also being dumped by a woman he's been threatening to dump for years, and generally losing control over her.
It's awfully interesting. I hope she keeps her newly-developed backbone.
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