cynical? no, that's precisely my opinion - hence the "HOTEL VERBMINX" comment. I mean, almost nobody ever comes to visit in AUGUST - when it's unbearably hot. they come when it's a cute little vacation for them. suspicions increase when they go to theme parks and/or spend more than one day at the beach.
the air mattress in the kitchen isn't even a hint - it's a concession, it cost us $80. my mom was going to let them sleep in her room. but that's not really a cool idea because of the setup with the cats and how traumatized they are since we got the dog. they hang out in our back room (a semi-patio that used to be open but is now enclosed) and only come out when the dog is in her crate, late at night. the entry to the back room is off of her bedroom, and they sleep in her room with her. if my mom wasn't there for them to sleep with, and instead were sleeping on the living room sofa where they aren't allowed, they'd be so fucked up about it. they're elderly & we don't want to upset them any further, because we worry about health decline.
the hints to the "guests" are more along the lines of them not really having anywhere to eat, us not having menus planned, that sort of thing. my mother is trying to talk herself out of the knowledge that her friend is totally taking advantage of her for a free hotel, but we all know it's true. said friend also passive-aggressively made my mother decide whether or not it was OK for her to come down - duh, it wasn't OK to ASK.
it's a fundie and her 9-yr-old daughter. whee. i have known this woman all my life. she's bipolar and ONLY ok to be around when she's taking her medication, and sometimes abruptly decides to stop. after my stepfather died, she wrote my mother a letter about how my mother hadn't been there for her enough previously. i think this woman is dead weight, personally, in the friendship department. the kid seemed all right when i met her a while ago, but making a kid go to a fundie church is one of the top five ways to seriously fuck them up. so who knows.
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Date: 2003-04-15 07:45 pm (UTC)the air mattress in the kitchen isn't even a hint - it's a concession, it cost us $80. my mom was going to let them sleep in her room. but that's not really a cool idea because of the setup with the cats and how traumatized they are since we got the dog. they hang out in our back room (a semi-patio that used to be open but is now enclosed) and only come out when the dog is in her crate, late at night. the entry to the back room is off of her bedroom, and they sleep in her room with her. if my mom wasn't there for them to sleep with, and instead were sleeping on the living room sofa where they aren't allowed, they'd be so fucked up about it. they're elderly & we don't want to upset them any further, because we worry about health decline.
the hints to the "guests" are more along the lines of them not really having anywhere to eat, us not having menus planned, that sort of thing. my mother is trying to talk herself out of the knowledge that her friend is totally taking advantage of her for a free hotel, but we all know it's true. said friend also passive-aggressively made my mother decide whether or not it was OK for her to come down - duh, it wasn't OK to ASK.
it's a fundie and her 9-yr-old daughter. whee. i have known this woman all my life. she's bipolar and ONLY ok to be around when she's taking her medication, and sometimes abruptly decides to stop. after my stepfather died, she wrote my mother a letter about how my mother hadn't been there for her enough previously. i think this woman is dead weight, personally, in the friendship department. the kid seemed all right when i met her a while ago, but making a kid go to a fundie church is one of the top five ways to seriously fuck them up. so who knows.