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My tummy hurts and I am in a bad mood.
I watched Boys and Girls earlier. I didn't particularly care for it. It suffers from an atrocious beginning, and being almost exactly like every other romantic comedy the rest of the way through. It had some funny moments, but nothing special or memorable.
I spent a while in bed clutching my poor stomach (which seems to have not liked the chicken scampi reheat), took some loperamide hcl, and got up online, ended up talking to a couple of friends.
i've been feeling mildly disenchanted with one of my friends lately, & been aware enough to recognize it as mostly me being cranky/cynical or insecure. I was miffed by something she did a month ago, and she explained it to her satisfaction and i let it go, but I don't think she realises that whatever her reasons were, it was still hurtful. I'm not still moping about it or anything... in fact, I didn't even say anything about it. It just came to mind after the conversation we just had, which was kind of stop-and-start and awkward because of my mood.
So I let the stuff about me seeing her as mildly so-hip-it-hurts lately go, and the petty stuff, because it's pretty lame of me and I know I'm just being cranky and bitchy. I told her that I had been feeling that way and that it was NOT her, it was just me being lame and I'd get over it.
We did talk about this other friend of hers, though... a girl she seems to hang out with a lot, but doesn't seem to like very much. I asked if she thought that I would actually not get along with this other girl, or if I was just predisposed to dislike her because of all the bad things I had heard. She chose the latter & explained that I just hear the venting & that she does actually like the girl. I tried to gently explain that I didn't think a healthy friendship should need quite that much venting in the first six months or so. (not that they should stop being friends, just that she might want to hang out with this girl a bit less or something.)
Also, my friend and I both disapprove of this girl's use of a "heavy" drug, but at the same time she defends it - "she doesn't use it much" "she doesn't use it around me" "she's not addicted" "if i stopped being friends with people who recreationally use this drug i wouldn't have any" -- and not characterizing the drug as "heavy" until I pointed out that it is, etc. Um, there is no such thing as "recreational" use of this particular drug... it's not heroin, but it is one of those things where you either do it or you don't.
I dunno. I'm trying to seperate this from my innate possessiveness of "my" friends. You can't talk to someone about something like this without them getting defensive, which is natural. & basically I should just keep my nose out of other ppl's business. My friend asked me what my purpose was in that line of conversation, and I wasn't sure either... I mean, I can't say "I don't want you to be friends with this person," -- but I really don't, without being quite able to put my finger on why, and I wanted to know if it was just me, and if she realised that the only things she had to say to me about this ostensibly good friend were... not good. i just don't really understand why they still hang out together.
but yeah. it's not my life, problem, or decision. so i think i am retiring from being a cranky hormonal busybody for the next year or two. (and the world heaves a sigh of relief.)
I watched Boys and Girls earlier. I didn't particularly care for it. It suffers from an atrocious beginning, and being almost exactly like every other romantic comedy the rest of the way through. It had some funny moments, but nothing special or memorable.
I spent a while in bed clutching my poor stomach (which seems to have not liked the chicken scampi reheat), took some loperamide hcl, and got up online, ended up talking to a couple of friends.
i've been feeling mildly disenchanted with one of my friends lately, & been aware enough to recognize it as mostly me being cranky/cynical or insecure. I was miffed by something she did a month ago, and she explained it to her satisfaction and i let it go, but I don't think she realises that whatever her reasons were, it was still hurtful. I'm not still moping about it or anything... in fact, I didn't even say anything about it. It just came to mind after the conversation we just had, which was kind of stop-and-start and awkward because of my mood.
So I let the stuff about me seeing her as mildly so-hip-it-hurts lately go, and the petty stuff, because it's pretty lame of me and I know I'm just being cranky and bitchy. I told her that I had been feeling that way and that it was NOT her, it was just me being lame and I'd get over it.
We did talk about this other friend of hers, though... a girl she seems to hang out with a lot, but doesn't seem to like very much. I asked if she thought that I would actually not get along with this other girl, or if I was just predisposed to dislike her because of all the bad things I had heard. She chose the latter & explained that I just hear the venting & that she does actually like the girl. I tried to gently explain that I didn't think a healthy friendship should need quite that much venting in the first six months or so. (not that they should stop being friends, just that she might want to hang out with this girl a bit less or something.)
Also, my friend and I both disapprove of this girl's use of a "heavy" drug, but at the same time she defends it - "she doesn't use it much" "she doesn't use it around me" "she's not addicted" "if i stopped being friends with people who recreationally use this drug i wouldn't have any" -- and not characterizing the drug as "heavy" until I pointed out that it is, etc. Um, there is no such thing as "recreational" use of this particular drug... it's not heroin, but it is one of those things where you either do it or you don't.
I dunno. I'm trying to seperate this from my innate possessiveness of "my" friends. You can't talk to someone about something like this without them getting defensive, which is natural. & basically I should just keep my nose out of other ppl's business. My friend asked me what my purpose was in that line of conversation, and I wasn't sure either... I mean, I can't say "I don't want you to be friends with this person," -- but I really don't, without being quite able to put my finger on why, and I wanted to know if it was just me, and if she realised that the only things she had to say to me about this ostensibly good friend were... not good. i just don't really understand why they still hang out together.
but yeah. it's not my life, problem, or decision. so i think i am retiring from being a cranky hormonal busybody for the next year or two. (and the world heaves a sigh of relief.)
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sorry -- I'm probably crankier than you, as my plane just landed in Crampland. :-p